How often have you wanted to do something but ended up not doing it?
It’s a common problem.
I was going to go out to Australia to see my new two month old great-nephew in February, but I decided not to go because I wanted to lose some weight first. And now I can’t go. Seb may well be at school before I meet him the way things are going.
Why did I delay? Because my sister-in law had lost lots of weight last year and I didn’t want to compare myself to her. I was scared I would be judged and that I’d feel like an idiot.
Fear can grow like a cancer, spreading through your thoughts until its tentacles paralyse you into inaction. So, you don’t do the thing you really want to do.
Perhaps you’ve thought of becoming a dog trainer, but have done nothing about it, even though you’d really like to try, because you’re scared of feeling like an idiot. Or perhaps you’re worried you might be judged. Or perhaps you feel confident dealing with dogs but are petrified about dealing with people?
I spend hours questioning and double questioning myself about just about any decision – including going to Australia. And the crazy thing is that I’m the only one who’s worried by those thoughts. My sister-in-law wouldn’t give it head room – she’d just be glad to see me.
That’s one reason why one of the things I’ll be covering in the Handling Humans course, which is part of my new Academy, is how to dismiss our inner Denigrating Dickhead and how to cultivate our inner Constructive Coach.
Because dealing with your own fears is far harder than training other people and their dogs.
Keep believing,
Carol